Agreement is a spectrum, not a binary
We tend to assume (and act) as though agreement and disagreement are the only two options available to a given course of action. If we agree, we support and do it; if we disagree, we do not. It is more helpful to recognize at least four responses that are possible
- I agree unconditionally.
- I agree, but with some reservations. However, I have expressed my reservations and feel I have been heard by the group, so I can go forward in peace.
- I don't agree, but I can support the decision made by those who have more credibility on this topic, are more affected by this decision, or who have greater certainty.
- No, I don't agree and cannot go forward. In order for me to support this, we will need to spend more time in dialogue.
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